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Most guys come to a site like this or into the “dating community” in search of quick answers. For whatever, they come looking for something. They think they want a girlfriend, a relationship or maybe they want casual sex. Usually men are looking for a quick answer to solve their problem. They are in search of super techniques they can use, and use it to get a supermodel to fall in love with them.

Little do they know… most guys who get into this stuff have a long, hard journey ahead of them before they can actually master this area of their lives.

See… no matter what anyone tells you, your success comes from within.

Not from following a script, learning the “decapitation method” or reading the “body language of gods” eBook. It’s a long rite of passage for most guys to get this handled.

It involves going out to social gatherings/venues on a regular basis, interacting with strangers, talking to beautiful WOMEN and even getting dissed by many of them.

You have to push yourself WAY past your comfort zone, project your innate masculinity and find a source of guidance. Without the guidance you are lost, traveling towards your goal aimlessly and without focus. Its imperative and most men don’t know where to look. For me that guidance came primarily from Doctor Paul’s material.

It sped up the learning process and got me to where I am today.

My journey started when I was eighteen years old. I was a freshman in college and just got out of a long, co-dependent relationship. Immediately after we broke up I realized that I did not have the ability to attract the women I wanted. Yeah, I could date girls similar to my ex-girlfriend and end up in unsatisfying relationships but obviously I wanted more than that. So, like anyone of my generation I went to the internet for help.

I typed “How to attract girls” into a search engine and after clicking a few links I was introduced to all the personalities, theories, social experiments and support that make up what is referred to as the “community”.

Some of the stuff I read was pretty wild. I didn’t completely believe that wearing platform boots, a mesh shirt and painting my fingernails black could help me get the cheerleader I was looking for. Nor did I completely understand how a “neg” or a “routine stack” could increase your attractiveness and likability. But I tried it all.

Every ridiculous theory, routine and tactic I could find. And miraculously, bit by bit I got better responses from women I met when out on the town (my professors didn’t know what to make of my new fashion sense however).

I got results despite the fact that I had on platform boots and referred to every girl I talked to as a “power puff girl”. Today I look back and laugh because I cant believe I actually tried these things. It’s so ludicrous. To those of you who are new to this stuff, these are all REAL tactics that were taught over the internet to people looking to improve success with women. These “techniques” were the result of trial and error and the continuous group effort to flesh out what it was that made some men attractive and some unappealing.

Over the years the theories improved, experts like Doctor Paul and others offered value that only science could provide and community members started to really understand how attraction worked. The learning curve sped WAY up - people could get great responses from women much faster than ever before. I bought Doctor Paul’s product line, shed my goofy outfits, stopped using scripts and “routines” and eventually stopped even trying to actively attract women.

After a while, it became so natural that I didn’t have to think about anything and my attractiveness just poured out of me.

This may seem like a weird story, and might even turn some people off to learning this stuff. Shit, when I started I thought I would be a playboy my first night out.

The truth is though; it’s the journey that you appreciate more than anything else.

The memories I have made in the process have become some of the most cherished memories of my life. The first time I kissed a girl in a bar - which now seems SO trivial was such an accomplishment. It was not as superficial as it sounds. I felt a rush of excitement and LIFE by achieving something so silly after months of study and “in field work”. The first time I took a girl home from a bar was a thrill too.

I couldn’t understand how a woman could want to have sex with me after knowing me for only a few hours. I thought I needed at LEAST three dates. The first girlfriend I got from a cold approach was more validating than anything. I met a drop dead gorgeous girl who fell in love with me almost at first sight. I would have never experienced any of this if I did not go on this journey. As small as some of these events may sound, to me they were MONUMENTAL. The process of learning is often so much more rewarding than completing you’re journey and achieving your goal.

These days I am able enjoy the fruits of my labor. I have amazing friends, unlimited choices with women, some great girlfriends and excitement that I previously would have never dreamed of. And because I have the memories of my journey I can fully appreciate it.

I have also learned to look at dating and women in a more positive way. Because I can “see the matrix” as they say - and naturally live it, I apply the same concepts to everything I do in life and success comes naturally. Mastering you’re life with women means mastering your life entirely - because to get to that point (whether this makes sense to you now, or not) you need to develop every virtue you have to offer as a man and only then will you be able to become the guy women not only want to sleep with, but want to date, admire and love as well.

Good luck guys, and enjoy the ride.

-Eric